I always believed that women should not change their last name after marriage. And when I got married, I was sure I would do the same. My reasons are technical. Why go through the hassles of a name change when it is not an obligation but just a stupid societal practice? What about the documentation/certificates etc that were issued on the old name? Birth certificate? Graduation degree? Passport? You need another document endorsing that the old and the new name are actually the same person! And do this for the rest of your life??!! And getting more argumentative, why should a girl give up her family or father's name just because she got married? Why should she disassociate herself from something that has been her identity for her entire life? And for whom? Society? I say - Bull shit! Men who try and impose this, I think, are way too egotist and insecure. If that is the case, they need therapy!
I am lucky to have a family that echo my sentiments - not the BS part though! Anyways, both my sister-in-law have not given up their last name, nor my mom or sis and neither will my wife do so. I think that decision should be left entirely on that individual. If she wishes to endorse her husband's name after her name, so be it. If it is her desire, I totally understand. That's purely sentimental. But doing so for reasons beyond that is plain foolish. All it does is create more hassles. Isn't life complicated enough already?
My message to all women out there: To hell with customs and societal norms - if YOU don't feel like keeping your husband's name - Don't do it!
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I seem to remember reading somewhere that it is not a custom with Muslim women to change their names after marriage. Your post doesn't give me that impression, though.
Anyway, you know I agree!
I'm not sure actually! All Muslim women I know have had their name changed. I had pressure from my people as well. I was told it is the norm. I conveniently chose to defy them! :D
good job:) Even I agree!!!
Man! you know I have always been proud of having you as my friend and now I realise why :)
You are not among the ones who would just do things coz thats how its been. You always have this tendency to weigh it, reason it out and do what seems right to you. And this is what i call the thought of a well educated and well brought up guy with high Morals and Standards!
Hats of to you....
You Rock!!!
Sankritya - Thanks! :)
Pu - You didn't know before today why you were friends with me or proud of me? :p
Jokes apart, Thanks for the wonderful words.
But somehow, I haven't had any male comments yet? :p
I agree to your thoughts of leaving it to the individual.
btw poo- tum masood ki badi taareef kar rahi ho!! [;)]
well brought up n educated n all... nahi nahi - i m not disputing that.. but these guys get on cloud 9 when they get appreciation.. so beware! HaHa...
tk cr.. cheers.
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